Usually when girls get together they like to discuss men and/or their love lives, right? Yes this is true especially up here at BYU. The other day I talked on the phone with one of my best friends Breann Hewitt. We got to talking about her new boy that she really likes and I got to talking about someone that I was starting to like. Anyway, this got us talking about the things we like/look for when searching for a significant other. It was interesting to see what we both liked. Yes, I have had crappy relationships in the past...well just 2ish...but I have learned a lot from them. Here's my list.
*Look for red flags RIGHT AWAY! Don't ignore them.
*Don't think I can change the person myself.
*Don't be tooooo nice. I need to put him in his place if he disrespects me or if he manipulates me or makes me feel guilty. I shouldn't take crap from anyone!
*He should bring out the best in me...everyday.
*He should make me happy through words, thoughts, and actions.
*Get out if he is too physical and/or manipulative.
*Make sure he is not in a spiritual rut. Does he have a testimony? Does he love the Savior? Does he honor his priesthood responsibilities? Can he take me to the temple?
*Watch how he treats others.
*The only addiction he is allowed to have is laughter :D
Now those are just a few of the things that I LOOK OUT FOR. But I would also like to make a list of things that I LOOK FOR. I have neglected to do this before to determine getting into a relationship but I have now realized that was stupid. :) Here is what I long to have...
I want a guy that:
*#1 can make me laugh.
*Cares for me.
*Can bring a smile to my face.
*ABSOLUTELY can make me happy...EVERYDAY!!!
*Brings out the best in me.
*Is quirky like me...and my family!!! Sometimes this is a hard thing to find. I don't want someone that just laughs at us but joins us in our quirkiness.
*Has the same common quirks...such as eating the crust off of a sandwich first, then smashing it and eating the now thinned down meal. What are the odds of that happening? How cute would that be if it were so?
*Has common values.
*Can handle my sassiness.
*Can stand my OCD-ness.
*Likes a lil bit of the romantic schtuff in a relationship.
*Loves and wants children.
*A mission is a great bonus.
*Has a growing testimony and is not ashamed to share it with others.
*Loves to work and works hard. He must have a passion in what he does.
*Can support a family.
*Is NOT intimidated by me...especially right off the bat.
*Can start a conversation out of no where.
*Is smart. I love to sit and have intelligent conversations. So, if he can do this with me he gets the major pointage right there.
*Makes me feel special without even trying.
*Uses the words cute, beautiful, and lovely instead of hott and sexy. This tells me how he sees me not only as a woman but as a daughter of God.
*Leaves me speechless with his kind words and deeds.
*Is NOT high-maintenance or materialistic.
*Is NOT shallow
*Is NOT vain. This means that I don't need a Brad Pitt or a Justin Timberlake. He doesn't have to be tall, dark, and handsome. It would be nice but the insides are much more important to me than the outside. If I find him cute and attractive then I'm content.
*Is beautiful on the inside more than on the outside. But it is also a bonus if he looks dang good in a suit (I'm silly I know lol).
*Loves to hold me and kiss me sweetly on the tip of my nose and forehead (Yet again I say I'm silly. I just like those sweet lil things).
*Is a great listener!!!
*Can't stand to be away from me for too long.
*Strives for eternal life.
*Is loyal, respectful, honest, trustworthy, comforting, kind, obedient.
*Has a prodigious personality, dry wit, contagious smile, great communication skills.
*Wants the best for me.
*Is my best friend!!!!!!!!!!! I want him to be my best friend...forever.
S0, I hope this doesn't sound too picky but these are just some things that I love and that I have seen in dad, Curtis, Mike, and Taylor. I too want my husband to possess these traits. I want someone to make me happy and make me laugh every single day. I want happiness to not only come from his words and actions but also just from his smile alone. Yes, I know that my day will come. I'm not impatient. I'm not worrying but I am just longing to find that one person that makes me feel special everyday outside of my family members that I have known my whole life. And I too want to reciprocate the happiness and love. I too want to make him feel special. I too want someone to love me just as much as I love him. Yay. I can't wait.